As terrible as trauma can be, it opens you to some sacred knowledge. ~ Kenneth Robinson Yesterday I asked Kenneth to help me understand trauma better. Recently I’d said to my teacher that trauma isn’t just a feeling, but then was unable to say more than that — and I want to be able to […]
“Online, we’ve got a compassion deficit, an empathy crisis…. We need to communicate online with compassion, consume news with compassion and click with compassion.” ~ Monica Lewinksy in a 2015 TED Talk
The focus of the fourth week of Oren Jay Sofer’s Wise Speech Course has been transforming habits, particularly our deeply ingrained patterns of communication. It’s a gigantic task, but happily there are aspects of it that are more approachable in online communications. In particular Oren offers a meditation that has worked well for lowering my email stress.
Today wraps up week three of the Wise Speech Course with Oren Jay Sofer — a week devoted to Listening. Taking the course this year, I’m focusing on adapting the principles and techniques of Right Speech to the online world. But it turns out that for listening, this gets dicey, particularly pairing listening with social media.
In the initial talk for the second week of “Wise Speech: An Introduction to Mindful Communication,” Oren Jay Sofer encouraged us to come from curiosity and care when we are communicating. To help remember this approach, I’ve created a wallpaper for mobile phones.
“Practicing Right Speech requires a dedication to mindfulness, especially to being aware of the impulse to speak before we actually speak. One approach for doing this is to develop the custom of pausing before speaking….” So what would happen if we did this simple practice of pausing in online communications — in email, social media, and texts?
If I had to name just one resource for Wise Speech it would be Buddhist teacher and CNVC trainer Oren Jay Sofer. In addition to publishing the most helpful book on wise speech that I know of (Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication), beginning tomorrow, he is offering a free 6-week […]